Is my Dr wrong? Please help me!

by Andrea Taylor
(Braintree, Essex, UK)

Hi




I have just found your site and wonder if anyone can help with a query.

My Son was diagnosed with SPD around two years ago, he is now 6 and very hard work!!! Yesterday we attended a Spectrum Autism Assessment with him and I ended up distraught at an insistence the Dr made. My son was not diagnosed Autistic spectrum (which I expected) but the Dr said "he was probably born with some small sensory problems but your Postnatal Depression has made it much worse and now he has severe SPD a tendency to dispraxia, learning difficulties and fine motor problems" she totally blamed my depression for everything that is wrong with my child!

Can anyone put me on to some research that backs up this Dr's comments or should I just go ahead and report her to the medical council? I am so angry at the way I was treated and even walked out of the meeting at one point.

Please if anyone can either confirm or debunk her it would be much appreciated.

Andrea



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May 13, 2010
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by: Anonymous

The doctor is wrong. A mother suffering from depression after giving birth did not cause your child to have spd. I wonder though if it could have been the other way around?

I had depression after my first child because she cried so much of the time, i would look around and see other moms that seemed to have a perfect life, baby never cried, their lives looked peaceful. mine was chaos. Having a child with spd is hard and it's a struggle even from birth.
Maybe i would have had depression anyway but i can tell you having a sensory baby didn't help.
just a thought.
Jun 20, 2009
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by: Crista

That makes about as much sense as the cause being you missed a word on your first grade spelling test.

If your anything like me, you blame yourself anyway. For not recognizing it early enough, for letting it happen, for trying to convince myself he there wasn't something different about him and not figuring out the problem right away.....whatever. It's taken me years to realize in my mind that's it's not my fault, but I still feel like I've let him down. I didn't have PPD and my kid is SPD to. My other 2 kids don't have SPD. (((HUGS))) to you. It's NOT your fault!
May 09, 2009
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by: Charlen Ohio

GET ANOTHER DOCTOR...How dare him blame your childs sensory isues on you. Sometimes our dispositions can affect how your child reacts in certain situations ( foe example if your high strung and easily react to your child in a loud manner, the your child may do the same) But in no way is it your fault that your child has this disorder. Children are born like this. Please get another doctor and get your child into Speech, OT, and PT ASAP. Good luck to you and God bless you.
May 08, 2009
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by: Anonymous

I'm sorry but that doesn't sound at all right to me. I'm not a dr. but I've never heard of such a thing. I'm interested in hearing what others have to say.
May 08, 2009
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by: Anonymous

That is one of the craziest things I've ever heard! SPD has nothing to do with any individual other that the one suffering from it. How could a parents or anyones depression effect it in any way? I would have been very upset also! I know that it is not a widely understood disorder and maybe that is the case here. It is so hard to get the help our children need when those in the medical field don't understand or believe in it. I would speak to another professional about this!

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