How would you describe your childs daily moods?

by Amanda
(Ohio)

I ask this question because after reading other questions from parents, I found my answer. I think I called everyone I knew out of excitement. I started to think I was a bad parent, or that she had a mood disorder or even autism at one time.




I have 3 other children, but its my 4 year old daughter who becomes uncontrollable every morning when she gets dressed. If I didn't have such a flexible job I would have been fired for way too many tardies.

The only thing I can't figure out is, does SPD include mood changes the way she can be ok one minute and as soon as you don't give her the answer she is expecting she starts getting mad and we end up in a full tantrum. If you don't put the blanket on her the right way, and she's in a mood we will end up in a melt down.

All the pieces fit together for SPD since she was 9 mo. old. I could never take her on long car trips, and now I believe it was because she was strapped in and she would get hot. Last year she started with she wouldn't wear clothes to bed because she would get hot, I could never put sweatshirts or sweaters on her because she said they made her hot...

Just this summer 2008 things have been getting worse. When it was time to switch from summer clothes to winter,it was horrible. But know she has gotten used to the fact of long shirts, and pants,


so that means summer we'll have to go through it all again. Pants never feel right as is, she only has 3 pair of underwear she likes.

But knowing now what is going on with her, I can get through this, I'm sure tears of frustration will continue but now I will have tears of accomplishments. We have a appointment with OT this month, and I found a course on SI that I hope will answer some of my questions. My New Years goal was to find answers for my daughter and better our relationship, and I think I am finally on the right road. But I am still confused because sometimes I feel like she is trying to control me? Does anyone else go through situations like that?

Right now as I sit here she took her clothes off to put a dance outfit on, well that came off as quick as it went on, so now she is trying to put her clothes back on, but the feel of her pants is causing a melt down. I feel as if she is trying to control me because everything is in reach of her but she sits here saying she can't reach her pants I give those to her and now she can't reach her shoes, we are in a melt down because ... well not sure I can't say anything that is right at this moment..

Does anyone out there have this problem??? Is your child as moody as I feel my daughter is??? (even when it doesn't start with clothes)

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Aug 19, 2009
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by: Alisa

------Those of us who truly listen to their expressions of misery (even, or maybe especially, during serious conversations when there is no meltdown) know that it is not spanking and yelling that they need.------

I have tried for years to tell Dr's and mental health places that my daughter has more than attention seeking behaviour's. Not because I listen to her ranting and raving in rage outburst, because I saw things or heard her talking threw her teddy's and dolls at an early age about things that toddlers should not being thinking about or just venting her violent thoughts on to her dolls and any one had seen it they would have thought I beat her up but I have always been against smacking and she had never witness violence in a family environment, if she saw violence it may have been a street fight but I would never have stuck around to let her see the whole thing if that's where she saw it.

I do like to watch law an order but I cant ever remember watching violent shows while she was awake. I felt like she saw the doll/teddy as her self and she was punishing her self for her violent behaviour toward me and other people she would bite and kick ect. She never knew I was watching her or listening to her if she busted me spying on her she would either withdraw or attack me. I just wanted to cry every time I caught a glimpse of her inner turmoil that I felt was making her behaviour worse.

I still do She recently sat down with a talked about thought of stabbing people and how she just wants to thought to go away and leave her alone but all it does is repeat over and over getting stronger/louder/faster as she get angrier, but always being there when shes was happier but it was quiter/slower/weaker. I suspected that she was intrusive violent thought since she was 5y and told me a mouse was drawing bad pictures in her head. The Dr's ignored what I was saying still blaming me for her aggressive behaviour. She does not want to stab people and she has phobia of knives and will not even touch them half the time even when she's in a good mood.

I suspect Obsessive Compulsive Disorder but a Dr still has never taken me serious until a few weeks ago and now he's decided he needs to see her alone for the first time ever. I taped her using my mobile phone just in case I was accused of making up the conversation or putting words in her mouth. I just want her to be happy and mentally healthy. I'm angry I was ignored for so long.
Jan 04, 2009
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by: Determined Dad

Our daughter has similar melt downs. It is extremely difficult to deal with. To be honest with you, I don't know how to deal it yet. We are just learning to deal with it now.

One thing that has helped me is to be patient and channel my frustration into searching for solutions. The only way for me to avoid frustration is to constantly try new techniques. Occasionally I will find one that works.


One technique that I have been trying lately is to give our daughter immediate OT therapy right when I anticipate a melt down. Another technique that I have been trying is to hug her for 5 minutes when I see a melt down coming. Our daughter loves to be held constantly and this seems to calm her down. I try to turn every thing I can into a game, and that seems to help distract them and often times will avoid a melt down.

I rely heavily on this chat forum to find new ideas of techniques that I can try. I am eager for others to share ideas on different techniques they use.
Jan 04, 2009
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by: Anonymous

yes moods are difficult, stick with it.
Jan 03, 2009
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by: Linda

Amanda,

Yes, we have the same problem with our granddaughter that you have with your daughter. And it doesn't help that daddy and grandpa think she is just "spoiled and manipulative" and that she is "working us." Garbage.

Those of us who truly listen to their expressions of misery (even, or maybe especially, during serious conversations when there is no meltdown) know that it is not spanking and yelling that they need. But now that we know what is wrong, what do we do about it when there is no OT possibility?

Any suggestions for DYI?

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