Daughter will not change her underwear because she doesn't want it to touch her anywhere

I cannot tell you how many types of underwear I have tried for my now 11 year-old daughter. I have tried Hanna Andersson, the Esme brand and others. I even tried making her a pair of homemade panties that were measured to match the current stretched out pair that she would wear every day.




I go through phases of really trying to push her to get her to change her underwear, and even tricking her into wearing a clean pair by hiding the worn pair while she is bathing, and then also just letting it go for a long time, because it is so traumatic for everyone.

What can I do, and what should I do? My daughter has never been diagnosed, but I'm positive she has SPD, so what does this mean for the rest of her world?

I care about her hygiene, and I worry about two or three years from now when she needs to wear underwear that fits her properly.

What I can do to fix this problem. I am a teacher, and I even have 25 graduate credits in Early Intervention/Early Childhood Special Education. I have worked with children of all abilities, but I don't know what to do to help my daughter.

Any suggestions?



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Jul 05, 2018
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by: Anonymous

As a child my biggest enemy was a pair of underwear; it got to the point where my mom just let me go around without any on. I can’t tell you how many brands we went through until my mother realized it wasn’t that I couldn’t wear them, it was that I couldn’t wear cotton ones.

I’ve been a constant consumer of Hanes ever since we discovered their X-temp underwear. They are extremely thin and feel like they are made of a type of nylon. Now, as you know, everyone experiences their SPD differently, so this might not work for her, but I do believe you need to just keep trying to find the feel of fabric that she doesn’t mind. I’m 20 and there are still some days that I have to struggle through because my underwear are bothering me, but it does get easier. Don’t loose hope.
May 27, 2018
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by: Anonymous

I think an incentive, as someone mentioned, would be a great idea. Also, have you asked her what about the underwear bothers her? Is it the elastic around the lets, the material, etc.

I would start by having her wear the ones you want her to wear around the house for a set time-set a timer. Maybe even ask her how much time she thinks (5 minutes or mote), and tell her that within that time she cannot complain about it.
Slowly work your way up to more time.

Incentivize it if you like...if she makes it the whole time without complaining then "x" happens.

My son has SPD and we do something similar with him. It's REALLY helped!
May 24, 2018
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by: Anonymous

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May 03, 2016
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by: Anonymous

Hello I don't know if this will help but I recently acquired a piece of clothing made of bamboo. It really is the softest material I've ever felt. Here's a link. I hope it may help
https://bambooclothing.co.uk/why_is_bamboo_better.html
Apr 29, 2016
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by: Anonymous

Hello! Perhaps trying a positive reinforcer chart or incentives? I have done this successfully with a client. Slowly build up the time spent wearing underwear.

Say, on a weekend if she wears a new pair from 8am-12, then she gets a treat or a reward of some sort. Try it again on a Sunday adding time, and then (having discussed the progression of expectations with her) having her wear them all day at school Monday. She can then change at the end of the day. With a reward for "making it" through the day.

Gradually building up her tolerance, with a reward system (immediate rewards, and then one that you both set up for a "long term goal" of say, 5 days of school). And it doesn't even have to be 5 days in a row at first.

It is important she sees it as achievable and is recognized for her progress immediately.
Mar 16, 2016
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by: Anonymous

Hi, I just wanted to post a comment to you regarding the above. My daughter also has issues with underwear (pants and socks are a real problem for her and cause her much distress) I have just ordered special shorts and singlets for my daughter from a company called JettProof. I am awaiting delivery with fingers crossed. They have had alot of positive reviews from parents of children with S.P.D, Autism, Aspergers. Maybe you could have a look at their website: JettProof.com? Will post again when my daughter has tried them to see if they help her.

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