What does this sound like to you?? PLEASE HLP!

by Dorothy
(Houston, Texas )

22 months old:

- Hates bath and will not sit down in the tub, scared of bath
- Terrified of water - pools, beaches
- Dislikes diaper changes and getting dressed, requires 2 adults
- Hates having teeth brushed
- Doesn't like having face or hands washed
- Doesn't like having sunscreen or other lotions put on (will cry)
- Won't sit down on sand
- Plays with a toy or toys often clenched in one hand so will play with only one hand
- No imaginative play
- No interest in playing with other kids
- Often whiny and irritable, often no apparent reason
- Severe separation anxiety
- Will not play independently
- Will go from toy to toy with no real purpose in activities
- Fearful of many things that are irrational
- Doesn't use utensils
- Awkward grasp on things like sippy cup (keeps fists clenched), still uses tight pincer grasp with thumb and index finger, rest of hand is tightly clenched
- Walks unsteadily -- hyper-extends legs? Still walks on tip-toes a lot of the time
- Repeats words but still leaves endings off words and has very limited range of sounds
- Does not say own name or names of other people independently (will try to repeat if prompted)
- No patience, whines and cries if wants something instead of asking and pointing
- Often cannot point to a picture of something in a book if asked or will say the wrong animal/item
- Excessively tongues food when eating
- Gets carsick
- Cries a lot in car and stroller and wants to keep moving
- Constipation issues
- Picky eater, will not eat entire food types due to texture
- Still acts and seems very much like a baby despite being almost 2 years old
- Doesn't like playdough or colouring with crayons (doesn't seem to understand what to do? or maybe no interest? Texture or developmental, not sure)
- When picked up, has a stiff or rigid-seeming body
- Heavy reflux as an infant which lasted well into the second year
- Frequent ear infections

He seems to be more difficult than other kids his age and he is difficult to manage. Is this normal behaviour? We keep saying he's just particular or just has quirks but things are not getting easier. He still seems like a baby whereas friends kids are starting to turn into little boys and girls. Is this sensory processing disorder, asperger's, autism, developmental or mental delay. Please what is going on???