Pulling pants up too high

by Leslie
(Fort Worth, TX, USA)

Oh my gosh, I need some help and it's with a bit of a sensitive subject!




My 17 yr old has autism and part of that involves sensory issues with clothing. He has always hiked his pants up as far as he can get them but we have been having issues with this at school recently.

Now that he has gone through puberty, when he pulls his pants way up, it causes his private area to be much more noticeable, which is now drawing the unwanted attention and comments of fellow classmates.

I've had two conversations with the admin at the school about my son's private parts in two days time (sidebar: OMG) because my son is upset that kids are talking about his stuff, but he refuses to try to wear his pants properly and can't understand why this is an issue. He doesn't like the way the jeans feel when they sit on his hips like they naturally should and he also has an irrational fear that his pants are going to fall down, which could never happen because he cinches his belt ridiculously tight.

Does anyone have any suggestions for how I might "fix" this so he's comfortable and not drawing unwanted attention?



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Apr 15, 2024
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by: Be

I do the same. I’m a girl so It’s not as much of a problem, it’s more that people don’t get the "style". What I find interesting is to me it also just looks the best. I don’t get why ppl think it’s geeky?!?! I don’t fear that they will actually fall… but I don’t like the feeling of them feeling like they could ( know if that makes any sense ? Lol) And I also always tighten my belt because of that. It just feels so much nicer having them tight and secure. Needed to hear other autistic ppl get this so thanks alot 😘
May 08, 2018
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by: Anonymous

Thank you - hadn't thought of that!
May 07, 2018
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by: Anonymous

Your child has probably a lot of self protection issues. Go shopping with him for a belt.
Maybe a belt that plays music.
God bless
May 03, 2018
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by: Anonymous

Thank you so much! I appreciate all the insight and suggestions! Will stop by the store today and get some of the wraps!!!
May 03, 2018
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by: help

I have the exact same problem with myself(except I don't pull my pants up that way, I found other ways to cope). I know exactly how he feels. The pants aren't just an annoyance, they are PAIN.

Three things that really helped me: if that's a thing, get him higher-waisted pants; keep his diet and exercise healthy, because being overweight makes it feel even worse; and here's the one that helped me the most: at some Five Belows (and some other stores) you can buy long, rectangular spandex wraps (Velcro ones are the best). They say they're meant to be for exercise or slimming appearance, but they can also be used for this. Not only will they GREATLY reduce the feeling of his pants, they can be wrapped tightly to help feel secure (instead of cinching pants super tight).

Just wanted to help!!

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