Underwear/Clothing

My daughter is 9 and I am having a horrible time trying to find her new underwear, I don't know how many packs I have gone through. She is down to one pair and I don't know what to do anymore!




She can't seem to handle the new feel. I have washed them and stretched them and that doesn't work. I have bought a bigger size and the same size and she still doesn't like them.

I think what I should do is throw out the ones she wears and deal with the 2 hr tantrum but I wanted to see if anyone else was having problems with this? I told her not to wear any at all but she doesn't like that feeling either.

She has had this Sensory Disorder probably since she was born. She did get some OT right before K for a year but I don't think it helped with her clothing issues. Transitioning from warm weather to cold and vice versa is always difficult to! She also has issues with shirts & pants. Right now the shirts aren't long enough and if they are to big she doesn't like them either.

I am at my wits end. I think I can deal with the shirts but the underwear is a problem its just not sanitary to wear the same underwear all week long. Please help!!

Thanks
Heather



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Sep 24, 2023
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starstarstarstarstar 		Frustrated Momma
by: Anonymous

Honestly these posts make me feel so much better, at least in knowing we're not alone. My 3 yr old daughter refuses any kind of bottoms. No underwear, no shorts, no pants, no leggings. She hates shirts, only wears loose, baggy dresses, when she wears clothes at all. If the sleeves are too tight or there is a waist to them, they're out.

She's fully potty trained, speaks fairly well, but when it comes to verbalizing what is wrong with clothes, she just screams, cries, and kicks. Its heart wrenching, and I'm dreading how I'm going to handle this when its time to start school.

I had similar issues when I was a child, but there was no saying no to my parents. I was just miserable most of the time. I've learned to cope, but I still have days where nothing 'feels' right at 48 years old. I can't explain why or what it is. Clothes I've worn a million times suddenly feel terrible on me, and if I can't find something that feels right, I'm miserable for the rest of the day. I hate that she's experiencing the same thing, and wish there was a 'fix' for this. It sucks, plain and simple.
Aug 31, 2023
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starstarstarstarstar 		My 9 yr also
by: Anonymous

My daughter has the same issue. The main issue is with underwear. I am unsure of what to do. She constantly pulling because she can’t handle having anything touching against her skin there.
Dec 09, 2019
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starstarstarstarstar 		Sensory and clothing.
by: Tim

Every child is different and not off sensory conditions are the same. My child had the same issues with underwear. She would only wear one type and if we let her only one pair. This is not a huge issue until they’re around 12. But then once menstruation happen this is a whole other can of worms.

My suggestion is to be extremely proactive. Find a brand that a child will wear and make sure you buy all the same color and sizes of that brand. That being said I would further investigate that brand being available in adult sizes. This is where we had the biggest (crisis). We were very proactive in making sure we had underwear available but once we reach the teens and had to move into adult clothing we were not prepared for the unavailability of the same type of underwear.

This is where we had the biggest (crisis). my biggest suggestion with a female child Is to talk about menstruation early!! and have them practice wearing a pad well before one if needed. If you think things are bad at eight to ten years old it gets much worse without a lot of planning for your teen.
Dec 01, 2019
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by: Anonymous

I am at a total loss as to what do do about my daughter’s sensory issues. No OT or pediatrician ever heard of such issues. She is 9 and has problems wearing underwear. She wears them so they kind of go up her girl spot. She self stimulates that way. She refuses to wear leggings because they are uncomfortable and she won’t wear loose soft pants because they are too soft. I’ve tried all different pants, textures, sizes and Same with underwear. I don’t know what to do. It’s bringing us both to tears.

Has anyone else had this issue?
Jul 02, 2019
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starstarstarstarstar 		Best panty for sensory issues ever
by: Anonymous

Lands end made the perfect pantry for sensory women with issues in 2001 but discontinued them a few years later. They launched a new panty in 2010 that fell short of the original. Having sensory issues myself and feeling desperate to find a replacement without success I've repeatedly asked them to begin producing them again. I've never found other panties made like these. They don't move and are made with a very soft elastic stitched into the fabric of the panty which is a well weighted cotton lycra blend that NEVER moves. Perhaps if enough people who are facing this dilemma asks, Lands end would produce them again for both women and girls.

I've battled sensory issues for 50 years. Trust me, these panties are superior to all others ever made and I've tried them all.
May 21, 2019
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by: Nicole

My daughter is 6 years old and has had sensory issues ever since she could verbalize them to me. She wears very loose fitting clothing. Here is some options that work for her & hopefully they will work for you as well.

Justice for girls- Has very soft, silky, seamless/ tagless underwear. we stretch out the top band a bit and she typically likes to wear the same pair everyday but if I don't let her its a 10 minute tantrum and then she wears another pair.

old navy- has been everything for us and clothes. They have very stretchy/ bouncy/ smooth shirts both short & long sleeve. We also buy their leggings as well. The band is very thin and she stretches it out and they work for her.

I hope this helps. just know you're not alone!
May 13, 2019
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by: Anonymous

I have an 8 year old son that all of a sudden also has sensory issues with clothes. Every morning he leaves in tears , makes me so sad because its not a tantrum in real, sad quiet tears :( .

I was reading that chiropractor adjustments help, has anybody tried that? please share what has helped, what helps and does do they outgrow this? why does it happen out of the blue all of a sudden??

thank you all..
Dec 18, 2017
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starstarstarstarstar 		I could have written that!!
by: Anonymous

Im in exactly the same predicament! My 9 year old daughter is in her last pair of knickers! And these are now too small.

Now looking through the comments in the hope there may be some form of help for our girls xx
Aug 22, 2017
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starstarstarstarstar 		Soft Knickers
by: Anonymous

My Son is Very picky about his underpants. Try Hanna Andersson. You can get them online if you haven't a store nearby. You'll want to throw up when you see the price but they're super soft and get softer with washing. They also don't leave any waist or leg marks. Good luck!
Aug 22, 2017
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starstarstarstarstar 		all clothes are too tight
by: Anonymous

I have a 4 year old who throws a fit every day about underware, pants, shirts, shoes and socks. I am buying size 12 underware and she still screams and says they are too tight. She refuses to wear jeans and socks. She will not wear leggings because they are to tight. I thought I was the bad parent who could not control my child. I thought it was a behavioral thing. Thank you for posting your comments because now I know my daughter may have a sensory issue. Now I have to get her doctor to believe me when I say my child has a problem.
Aug 19, 2017
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starstarstarstarstar 		Underwear sensitivity--we're seeing improvement!
by: Anonymous

At age 5 years my daughter began showing sensitivity to underwear and any clothing binding her fanny (bathing suits, pants, shorts, tights). She's 7 now. One concern she was able to voice was the elastic hems on typical "girl" underwear. My son's underwear has fabric covering the elastic in the hems, so when we could not find girl underwear with covered hems that fit her comfortably--we let her wear "boy" underwear.

Two weeks ago, reading your story and similar ones, I wondered what sort of physical therapy would help; seeing no 100% answer online, I watched videos for other sensitivities and thought, "Massage and exercise seem to help with other sensitivities." So, my daughter has agreed I should give her a massage after her shower on the problem areas, then put on the underwear and massage again, then put on the shorts/pants and massage again. She still makes faces about the clothing going on, but she flops down on the bed and points at her fanny, asking me to massage if I "forget." The tantrums have decreased amazingly.

I hope this helps you and others.
Aug 25, 2016
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by: Debra

My 8 year old daughter has the same issue. It started when she was 4 with swimming suit bottoms. When she started kindergarten I thought I was going to lose it so for the past 4 years she has not wore any underwear, however it's now time to get her back into them before she starts her cycle.

I have tried Victoria Secret no seems for her. These are $11 a pair and at first she loved them, this store is for women and she is only 8 so now she is saying she hates them, they are to big. That was my last chance, I have tried every pair out there before I decided to let her go without them.

She is in therapy for these issues and more. The clothes feel weird, I hate shopping for her nothing I get is very soft enough for her. It's fine when she tries it on but the next time she wears it she throws a fit.

Is there a website where you can buy panties for kids with these issues? I'm really thinking about making her clothes myself. My child is normal in every way she can't help the sensory issues.
Aug 23, 2016
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starstarstarstarstar 		underwear/clothing helpful tips
by: Anonymous

We have some of the same issues here. I will ask you to try several in a size larger than the child's size, possibly even two sizes larger. There is no elastic or it's covered by the fabric (often the same color as the fabric) and there are no tags and are seamless, no wedgie, no ride up etc. Try different types, boxer, boy shorts, briefs, microfiber, 100% cotton if you can find it.


It took time but we found the right type and bought many packages in multiple sizes so we'll have many for years to come. For little girls try to find the same type for little girls but also in womens like a size 6 for a size 16 girl, or start the next size up. If you find a pr they like buy multiple packages in the next sizes up since once they find something they really like it's really difficult for them to change the style etc.


Set up an obstacle course. Explain to your child what your doing and why, you might need to do this many times. Run the course through with them so they understand it. Then say were trying something new now. You run into the bathroom/bedroom/hallway (where ever private for the child if it's needed) and you put on this pr of undies then you run through the obstacle course and as you do tell me if you hate them or like them. Do they hurt, too little, too big and baggy etc. Of course this is for kids who are able to explain themselves at least some.

Make it fun, a game, give high fives and encouragement as they pass through or some kids might like you to play like a tickle monster and try to get them. If they can't talk well and keep them on during and after the course consider it a win.

Once you find the pr lay out the same package as they are different colors, count them, name the colors, give them a day of the week if you like always have extra and give one accident day and one laundry day. Or whatever your child needs. A schedule can also help them with the hygiene of changing regularly and start good habits.


Get underwear knowledge, keep the package of the ones the child likes so you know what to buy next time you can. There are so many varieties you hopefully will find one your children will tolerate. Be prepared to spend up to $80 at first until you find that package they like best, you can return the ones they don't like. Or donate the package to foster kids etc.


I wish you all luck with it. It does take work to get it right. Please remember to buy extra's. I even have to do this with pj pants which is all my child will wear. I'm regretting not doing so last yr.
Aug 06, 2016
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starstarstarstarstar 		Camaraderie is nice but I wish it weren't under these circumstances!
by: Taryn

Heather, SPD mom and others, it is so good to have people who understand, but I wish none of us were in this situation. Heather, my son has had the same pair of underwear on for over four months. This is very gross and unhygienic. I get them off about once a week to wash them and he acts like he is in hell. They have holes and tears and are just plain disgusting.

I went to find his other underwear and lo and behold they ALL disappeared. He threw them ALL away! I had some new ones and he tried to hide them. He had surgery on his penis over the summer. The Urologist told him how unsanitary it is to wear the same pair everyday but it doesn't matter to him. He was in so much "pain" down there, physical and emotional. He used to be so sweet, polite, lovable and adorable.

But this past year he started swearing, getting so angry and volatile. He would say my F ing penis 40 times a day or more. It's so hard to hear a 9 year old say such foul words. It got better after the surgery. He will still swear, but maybe once or twice a day!

So many of your kids have this issue and it will really serve you all to have an appointment with a Urologist. This medical issue is very common. A lot of kids that need this surgery don't have sensory issues but those who do seem to benefit the most from this surgery.

The kids first do a uro flow test to see if the bladder muscles are working the way they should. My son's was so off. Normal would be that the muscles get stronger as the urine flow into the toilet starts. And then the muscles slow down as the test comes to an end. My son's flow was the same pressure throughout the test.

I think the bigger problem for my son is the fact that he is now terrified of soap especially if it were to get on his privates. Before we found out what was actually going on with his penis we visited the ER several times because he was hurting himself and wishing he was dead. Two doctors told him he might be hurting down there because soap may have irritated it! Ugh!

He used to LOVE showers and a bath. He could spend five hours in the tub. But now he won't set foot in either one because he is afraid the pain will come back. He is already in early onset puberty. He gets BO easily. He won't clean himself. I usually help him with a sponge bath once a week but it doesn't involve cleaning his privates.

I'm so scared that he is going to be completely ostracized thins year in school because he stinks or is just plain dirty. Last year in third grade he showered a lot and had many "girlfriends". I'm afraid all the girls will run this year.

We were supposed to go to a wedding today but I think it would be an insult to the bride and groom to let him come dirty, stinky and wearing sweatpant shorts and a holy t-shirt.

Thank you all for sharing your stories. I wish and pray the best for all of us, especially the kids. Please look into getting your child a Urology appointment!
Aug 05, 2016
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starstarstarstarstar 		13 years and STILL can't wear undwerwear
by: SPD Mom

My daughter diagnosed with SPD at 4yo. She is 13 now. I have spent so much money on every style, size, shape, fabric underwear in existence (and every-other article of clothing as well). She simply cannot wear them. Under any other circumstance, this wouldn't be a battle I would fight, but all she wear are baggy dresses. So, if the wind picks up... or some stupid boy decides to pull up her dress and it gets around... she is going to be mortified. Not to mention the germs and all.

There have been so many late/absent days from school - as I had to drag her, literally kicking, scream, clawing in to the school. As soon as she would get into the car, she would take off her seatbelt and start ripping off her clothes - into shreds. Any pants/shorts/skirt and underwear would be the first to go.

Trust me, I know EXACTLY how you feel, And it DOES get much worse in the summer - so going back to school is always a HUGE stressor in my household. But, after 10 years of different therapies (OT and brushing technique included) and medications... nothing has helped. She is 13 now—going into 8th grade and still wearing dresses with no underwear. She WANTS to, but she simply can't. At this age, I have just resigned to the fact that I can't fix it. I know how hard this is on her and as much as I want to help her, I can't. I keep different styles and sizes of underwear in the house and every now and then she gets brave and tries them. She always gets angry at herself and depressed that she cannot. "Why do I have to be like this? Why can't I just be normal?!". It breaks my heart.

At this point, I am leaving the ball in her court. This disorder is so hard to deal with. For parents and so much more so - on the kids. I say - let them do what they need to so they can get by. Let them wear old, tattered clothing and no underwear if that is what helps. I know that doesn't really offer a solution. And I am so sorry for that. Just wanted you to know our experience.

Only thing I can offer is - keep in touch with her school principal and a close relationship with her teachers. They can be so much help if you just keep them in the loop.

So sorry, I know that is not what you were hoping to hear. But, I also deal with a lot of the issues she does. It was awful as a kid, because my parents didn't understand. They thought I was just a picky, dramatic pain in the butt. As I've gotten older, I have had to learn to control some of it. They don't have that in them at this age. It's hard. Harder than you can imagine. They want to fit in. They just can't. It's heart-breaking.
Feb 18, 2016
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starstarstarstarstar 		SmartKnitKIDs undies were lifesavers
by: Anonymous

My daughter hated panties and did everything to avoid wearing them. When the teachers started checking every morning, I had to find a seamless option. A Google search for SmartKnit turned everything around for us. Now she wears panties without tears and doesn't think about them for the rest of the day. Life changing!
Feb 16, 2016
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starstarstarstarstar 		Same SPD
by: Anonymous

I hate underwear. I won't wear them EVER. I know at some point I have to but I will hate it. Does anyone have ideas of what is really comfortable? 😢 I really want to be comfy for once. But if your daughters have SPD then tell them to wear comfy sorts under long skirts you can find a target.
Jan 08, 2016
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starstarstarstarstar 		Issues with waering underwear and Sensory Issues
by: Anonymous

i had problems with my autistic son with sensory issues including getting a hold of diapers and wearing them. he doesn"t like regular underwear so i just recently brought him Real Fit for men there underwear for incontinence but they also look like a diaper and so far it seems to work
Jun 05, 2015
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starstarstarstarstar 		There is hope
by: Taryn

I posted on here earlier about my son's issue with SID. His underwear and clothes in general were off the chart. Not to long ago my husband took him to school. A helper helped open the truck door. Noah was in the backseat and he had his undies and pants pulled down. Chaos ensued. Calls to Psychologists, etc. people thinking my husband was a child molester. Noah has had OT on and off when the school would allow it. Basically when he scored too low on academic tests. We are now using the Wilbarger method of brushing with joint compressions. Look it up on YouTube. You can buy the brush from Amazon etc. we also are doing a sensory diet which isn't all about food. It has activities etc.. It is intensive but I must say Noah is now wearing a different pair of undies each day and there are no tantrums. Clothes are getting better to. Please look this up and try it. It is working.
Jun 04, 2015
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starstarstarstarstar 		OMG I swear I could've written this post
by: Rhonda

my daughter is 9 and this exact same issue has just started with her in the past few months (seems like it started when it started warming up). I can't get her out of the house though. She walks around all day in her sports bra and a wrap around towel (the ones with Velcro) around her waist like a skirt. She refuses to put on any underwear meaning that I can't get any breaks from her because I'm physically disabled and struggle so all I want to do is lay down and rest when someone does come to take her to horse therapy or what have you. Now she's even refusing horse therapy too.

I'm scared to even spend the outrageous amount of money for 1 pack of "Sensory Sensitive Undies" because I'm scared she won't even try them on let alone wear them out somewhere. I'm scared because I have no clue what to do when school starts back up now. I don't have the patience to home school her. She's always been fairly high functioning and so most of her sensory issues have been around her being hyposensitive and craving too much sensory input then not being able to regulate herself.

If anyone has an answer to this solution oh and for a girl that wears a size 14 in girls panties too oh and one where I won't have to order them and not receive them until July or August cause I need them NOW that would be great.
Apr 25, 2015
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starstarstarstarstar 		I feel like I'm living in a nudist colony
by: Taryn

My 8 year old son has had sensory issues from birth. He was born two months early and has more issues with stimuli as a result of being in the NICU for so long. He used to be sensitive to many noises especially the wind. We could never open windows because the sound of the wind hurt him. He has gotten better little by little over the years in regards to noise. But the clothing issue just seems to get worse. He always runs around nude. I don't want him to be ashamed of his body. I was molested as a child and I don't want him to feel the shame I felt. He only will wear two pairs of underwear. It's frustrating for all of us. He only wears sweats. They all have holes in them from so much wear. I don't know what to do anymore?
Jan 11, 2015
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by: Anonymous

Im a 22 year old girl who was diagnosed with SPD at the age of 9. I remember waking up one day and could no longer wear most things....socks, underwear, layers, jeans, headbands, gloves, the list goes on. As I aged I became very socially paranoid about how I dressed, and badly wanted to fit in. So i made the effort of riding the only terry cloth pants I could wear, and first tackle jeans. My mother went to many different stores and would return with atleast 30 different brands and pairs, and sometimes 1 or 2 I could handle for about 2 hours at a time. I could start wearing them fully at around 16.

at my age now I can wear some pairs of jeans, certain bathing suit bottoms (with nothing over it, and definitely not one piece) and socks if the toe part is flipped over and pulled tight. But still no underwear. Its still a struggle day to day, but i'm not going to continuously prevent it from affecting my life.
Sep 06, 2014
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starstarstarstarstar 		I was the same way about underwear...
by: Donae' C

So i read majority of the comments... And the one that applies to me was when i was in elementry and i was doing the pulling in my crouch part... I hated when the underwear and pants would rub my inbetween... I would sag my underwear and my pants... I also hated it in middle school, but this is when i started my womanly thang... I hated that not only my underwear had to touch but my pad... And i still hate it ( and im in college ) but i love the spandex boy shorts ( the streachy ones )... They dont feel like they are there and they dont come up... ( Im a plus size stud lesbian ) But try it and see...
Aug 04, 2014
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by: Anonymous

My daughter is now 10 she started showing signs of SPD at around 2yrs old but I never figured it out until she was about 6 yrs old we also have major underwear issues. Finally at age 7 I let her wear boys boxers - what a difference - no more underwear issues. My problem now is I have been thinking about puberty is coming she is going to be developing and refuses to wear a bra - and what about when her period comes I do not think boxers well hold lady products on it well. I tried talking to her and explaining these new issues we need to start thinking about. She will not hear of it and refuses to even think about it. I believe her problem has been something touching vaginal area - going crazy trying to figure this one out.
Oh we also have sock issues - just went to store tried on 20 different pairs of socks - found tie- dyed ones - which were ok now - wait until I wash - they will be uncomfortable - that is how it goes we find something do-able and wash it and no longer able to wear! I have wasted so much money trying to find the RIGHT feeling clothes. She hates jeans plus she is thick in the middle and kina short so pants are already difficult to find and almost always need hemed. She pretty much only wears boys clothes (Tom boy or just more comfortable) summer is boys t-shirts and athletic shorts and winter is boys t-shirts and boys sweat pants with no elastic at ankle. Light weight sweat jackets. Very picky eater! One great thing she loves school and is straight A student. I understand she will struggle with this probably her whole life but just hope for a little relief - I just want her to wear fitted underwear and a bra when it's time. This is my current struggle.
Nov 16, 2013
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starstarstarstarstar 		Clothing probs
by: Anonymous

I am a 16 year old boy. I use to be so figitty with clothing and only wore things that had an elastic band. I also use to be overweight and had trouble fitting in certain brands. I have found, as buying products, that there are brands that fit amazing and others that don't. For shirts, Gilden makes 100% cotton that dosen't shrink or run colors. For underwear i wear a combination of boxers and boxer briefs. Boxers by American Eagle (they are expensive, but are so worth it) and for boxerbriefs adidas 92% polyester/8%spandex because they are so soft and light. (Again, a little pricy, but last for a long time) For socks, adidas no-show with the cushon. (Again expensive, but ive washed them over 100 times and they're still soft. Hope this helps. Also, make sure he has room for his/her stuff. AND LACE SUCKS!
Apr 14, 2013
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starstarstarstarstar 		best underwear
by: Anonymous

Try Hanna Anderson underpants - can purchase them online
They are expensive but worth it
Apr 04, 2013
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starstarstarstarstar 		Sensory 8 year old girl
by: Anonymous

My daughter is almost 9 and has had a sensory issue with her clothes since she was little. Besides the underwear issue we are currently experencing again, i have found socks that she will wear and her shoes need to be an extra size bigger XXL for room in the shoes. As for pants i only buy yoga fold over pants. I refused to buy anymore underwear so she has been taking the sissor to them. She will only wear the underwear that is cotton no elastic or lace (from kohls or target). The problem occures when she sits down the underwear is touching her skin which is what i gather. Every morning its a fight to get dressed. I am loss. We tried the comfortable $11.00 underwear which those did not work. HELP!!!
Mar 13, 2013
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by: Anonymous

After reading different comments I really believe this is what my 10 yr. old granddaughter has. She cannot stand certain kind of underwear touching her. My niece gave her a pair of Victoria Secret panties and sure enough she fell in love with them but before that she would only wear her bathing suit bottoms. The problem with that was my daughter was having to wash everyday until one of her sisters went and brought her 5 pair of Victoria Secret panties and a friend of mine also brought her 5 pairs. One out of all of them had a different waist band and she refused to wear it, she said it's not like the other ones and looking at it, it wasn't. Another thing she cannot stand to wear bluejeans, but she will ware the spandex pants. Even with these being suitable for her to wear she still pulls at the crochet. We have problems getting her up in the mornings, she throws fits. She doesn't like to brush her teeth, comb her hair much either. She hates going to school or even doing homework in the afternoon. It's a fighting battle with her everyday. She was diagnosed as being ADHD, we do know this much.
Mar 12, 2013
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by: Anonymous

I am a 38 year old mom who wears underware! When I was young my mom put my underware on me in the morning and when she left the room I would take them off and go to school. I have a memory of being at a friend's house on her trampoline in kindergarten in a dress (lol).

I grew out of my tacile sensativities. I still don't wear fancy uncomfortable underware, but I do wear nice and comfortable cotton ones.
Jan 01, 2013
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starstarstarstarstar 		Hanes oversize underwire works for our granddaughter
by: Anonymous

We buy our 9 year old over size Hanes underwire. Right now she should be wearing a size 10 and she is wearing a size 14. It seems to work for her. For socks, she likes to wear the ladies very thin black socks. You can get them at Walmart. I keep them in my drawer and she get them every day. She loves crocs in the summer. Hope this helps
Aug 18, 2012
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starstarstarstarstar 		Speedos
by: Anonymous

My son tries to refuse underwear. We've tried tight jockeys, loose jockeys, tight boxer briefs, loose boxer briefs, boxers... None of them felt right to him, and he was always sticking his hands down his pants to adjust things that didn't feel right. Finally, our OT suggested that we try a Speedo swimsuit. They are quite expensive, but they have been the only thing that has worked for him, and wearing them even got him to stop sticking his hand down there. He still would rather have NO underwear, and I have to ask him every school morning, "Did you put your underwear on?" But he IS willing to wear it without a fuss.
Jun 02, 2012
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starstarstarstarstar 		MORMON GARMENTS ARE ITCHY
by: Anonymous

I'm struggling because I'm an adult who is a Mormon. The problem: Getting your endowments in the mormon temple means you wear itchy garments that go below your knee cap for the bottom garment and long tops with sleeves. The mormon garments have to be worn day and night. I just realized I have a sensory processing disorder and the fabric, seams and lace ITCH. The mormon quilt is terrible so you continue to hate these gastly pieces of underware going about your day and night being as uncomfortable as possible, especially during hot summer days. Your children are lucky they are children and not mormon adults.
Apr 20, 2012
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starstarstarstarstar 		CONFUSED!
by: Anonymous

My daughter is 7 yrs. old and started last year having to cut the tags out of all her shirts and some pants, but mostly shirts. Not just the tags at the neck, but I have to cut the tags that are sometimes located at the bottom on side of the shirt. She will not wear blue jeans, but will wear the spandex pants with elastic in the waist that look like jeans, but are made of a must softer material. She does not like shocks at all. The seams have to be just right, or complains they make her feet too hot.

Last year when we took her to Disney World for the first time, we told her she was going to have to wear tennis shoes, not flip flops. She was okay with the tennis shoes, as long as she did not have wear the socks, but I told her should would get blisters if she didn't. So, after trying on 6 or 7 different pairs of socks, she still refused to wear them, and by this point my husband was so frustrated, he told me that he and my other daughter are going to go ahead and go to the park and that we could come whenever I could find socks that my daughter would agree to wear. So Frustrating! You know there are times when there are tags that are scratchy and do bother you, and I have had to cut some of them out of my shirts as well, but if my daughters even sees a tags in a shirt, she yells "tag, tag" like it is some king of bug or sometime, really weird. And the tags at the bottom of her shirts, I tell her how can this be bothering you when the tag is not touching your skin. Anyone else dealing with something similar to this?
Aug 26, 2011
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by: Anonymous

Im 14 and have sensitivity problems with clothes. I cant stand most tennis shoes and have NO underwear i usually end up having a fit idk what i'll d when school starts my mom is ordering me some but they probably wont work. My advice is to try hanes underwear they're quite comfy until they get to small.
Mar 01, 2011
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starstarstarstarstar 		hoping to get some relief
by: Anonymous

Hi I'm 22 years old and I have had this problem since I've been very little. My socks have to be turned inside out, tags cut out of clothes and shoes have to be very soft inside. Nothing with a hard toe or back. I've been wearing ugg boots all winter since they're the only thing that seem comfortable. I used to fight with my parents every morning when I was younger. We didn't know what wrong. I just thought it was my ocd. Now that I know what this is called I'm going to seek help. I refuse to let this rule my life any longer.
Feb 19, 2011
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starstarstarstarstar 		Underwear issues here too!
by: Anonymous

OMG! I am having the same issues with my 6 year old daughter. Socks and shoes, tags and shirts have always been an issue and now this year it is underwear. She throws major temper tantrums every morning usually and screams that the seam from the lining bothers here. She has now resulted in wearing her underwear low on her hips so that the underwear hangs on her. It's very frustrating. I have always wondered if she had a sensory disorder however clothing is the only thing that appears to bother her and prior to this year, it was only with me and Dad. We had assumed that it was her being strong willed and some mornings have been really bad... I recently talked to her teacher and she stated that my daughter messes with her clothing all day and had a fit one day when the teacher asked her to put her socks on... We are currently waiting on a referral to see a specialist. Thank you for the person who posted the comment about the gluten free, I am going to look into that as well. I did find a website that has seamless underwear, sensorycraver.com. I just ordered a pair. Let's hope it works:)
Jan 29, 2011
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by: Anonymous

My son has been dealing with SPD for almost 4 years, & I have found several different site very help this being one of them. He also has clothing issues. I love this site & they are constantly adding to their collection & are always looking for feedback. They don't have panties yet, but perhaps soon??? Best of luck. http://www.softclothing.net/
Jan 19, 2011
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by: Heather W

OMGoodness!!! This makes since now!!
We are just learning about my sons sensory issues (have all ways been there just figuring it all out) and he hates the pants i get him. They have the buttons inside with the elastic to make them fit right. It is the only kind that fits his extra tall but extra skinny self. i have fought with him over this, make him wear them and now i feel about this tall "TINY"....

I can't believe i have been making things worse for him on this. SO i will be cutting the buttons out. But he hates a belt too it is to tight no matter how loose. I think i may have a new problem here, but now i know where to come to figure this all out and how to get it off "my Chest" now i just have to learn how to help my little man cope with this too.

Does any one have a problem with hair brushing? it hurts him!! and he will scream it too me until he is blue in the face i know now it's not just him being mean about it it is is SPD and will deal with the situation differently. but we have used every brush, comb and fingers i can think of. And he want do it his self, but you got to wash and brush your hair. right?
Jan 19, 2011
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by: Anonymous

Ask your daughter to describe why her only pair of underwear feels "right".

She maybe able to identify the body area that is super sensitive. Is it the legs? waist? too low or too hi? Seams? Material? Layering? Does she have any ideas, what would work?(really, sometimes our kids come right out and say "lets try this, cause I think it will work" or "this won't work because....)

When you find out more about areas to avoid and areas that are not sensitive, you can then try different underwear that might work.

My DD hated anything on her waist. But she loved wearing her swimsuit- we had a really big problem with underwear (only 1 pair that worked) until we found out that she can tolerate leotards as underwear -they spread sensation of the touch of her pants waist band against her skin. Also pants.... we needed comfy stretch pants with wide waist bands- like yoga pants- We found this style at Justice..

We talked and talked about how the underwear feels when it is "right." and why the new underwear doesn't work.

And occasionally even the "right" feeling leotards won't work and then we know that we are going to have a rough sensory day- and that my DD needs to do extra jumping and compressing joints, brushing . And extra, extra, extra (did I say extra? LOL) time and distraction are needed for getting dressed. This is usually on a day that the weather has changed. Transitioning from night wear to day wear is tough and like your DD from hot to cold weather clothes. Everything hurts some days !

On any new item of clothing- this included underpants and leotards- my DD does habitation. And we have a big reward for successfully learning to wear an item of clothing that my DD has said it is comfortable to wear. She must wear the item of clothing for 4 hours to earn points for a big reward.

Also I do not use the dryer on any of her clothes-ever... I hang everything on hangers. IMHO, the dryer wears out clothes faster.

Also have an item- like a nightgown or PJ's (no underwear) that your DD can change into and de-stress and be comfy when she needs too.
Jan 17, 2011
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starstarstarstarstar 		Hi,
by: Anonymous

It sounds like your daughter is having the same issues as mine has and they're similar ages. With the underwear issue, it helped to wash them many times before she wore them, preferably with a lot of softener, then they will all feel like they are 'well worn'. I've even taken to making my daughter physically hand her dirty underwear to me each morning so she can't try and pass off a clean pair as the dirty! It is a very uncomfortable sensation they feel when wearing something unfamiliar so the things that are attempted to try and get away with it are amazing! I hope this helps and good luck.
Jan 17, 2011
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starstarstarstarstar 		Underwear Alternatives
by: Anonymous

My daughter has underwear "issues" as well. It helped us to have several alternatives she can choose from like bike shorts or even leggings. Our rule is as long as her bottom is covered, she can choose what she wants to wear.
Also, it may seems totally unrelated, but we have seem a MAJOR reduction in these types of tantrums after removing gluten (wheat protein) from her diet. I would encourage anyone whose child has SPD to try going gluten-free. The results for us have been amazing.

Best of luck to you as you look for solutions!
Jan 17, 2011
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by: Anonymous

Hello Heather I have the same problems with my baby, she always wears the same clothes worn out. I have not found solutions. Im sorry. The problem is neurological and their problems are real. Doctors that you care for SPD, and the many variants of autism spectrum disorders you are our hope.
Jan 17, 2011
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by: Anonymous

This sounds silly but have you let her try wearing boys underwear or boxers? or you can try having her wear Under Armour Shorts. Bathing suit bottom? As long as she wears underwear who cares what it looks like.
Oct 19, 2014
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starstarstarstar 		Issues with underwear
by: Anonymous

I had the same issue with my daughter (7). It was driving me, and her, crazy. Today I found something that really seems to work. Bike shorts. I found some that are mostly cotton, and she loves them. You might give it a try.

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