my 3 1/2 year old daughter....

by Tabby
(canada)

Im not sure what to say so ill just try to start at the beginning...

Ever since my daughter was born shes been extremely sensitive to touch, light and to much movement around her. she cried from 2 days old until she was about 8 months(literally) and i realized that she just didn't want me to try to hug her or anything like that to sooth her when she was upset. She always pushed you away when you tried to hug her or hold to to close. The only thing that helped then and even now is being wrapped very tight in a blanket or having her feet or hands squished between your hands. She has just started sleeping though the night about 6 months ago before that she was up every 2 or 3 hrs every night no mater how tired she was. Shes also has night terrors and at times cries like something was hurting for hrs but doctors could never find anything wrong since she was around 8 months old...

Now that's shes 3 1/2 shes still vary sensitive with touch unless its me or her grandma even then she has to be expecting it. She's gotten so picky with food that i cant cook her anything anymore. She will not eat anything thats more then room temperature and doesn't like anything sticky, touching each other on the plate(i had to get plates with dividers in them just to stop the tantrums over the food touching) and she gets vary upset is food around her smells to strong to the point that she will hide under the table and cry when we are out at play groups or something and they bring out something like Caesar salad. she has never eaten soup of any kind or any kind of dip and does not eat meat. The list of food she will eat is mostly fruits and a few veggies which are good but the list seems to be getting even smaller...

Her language is behind to she see a speech therapist once a week but even i cant understand her 50% of the time which is so frustrating for her. We use some sign language which is soooo helpful! Shes also had poor eye contact since she was a baby, when she was small she always looked just past your face never studying your face like every other baby her age i held did. Now she wont look at your eyes for more then a few secs and that's when you ask her to look at your eyes directly. She also wont wear new cloths until they have been around for a week or two, she has a problem with new things touching her cloths, shoes, hats, bed sheets things like that even if they have been washed.

I tried taking her to a few doctors and they treated me like i was overrating, she is always vary vary quiet and still in here office, shes never still at home and looks just fine and they never hear her talk or try to touch her so they dont see the reactions.Its so frustrating when doctors dont listen to you at our old doctors office my daughter would sit and lick (if i let her)or feel the walls because she loved the feel of the little bumps and when i tried to point out that to the doctor she said it was fun and cute.... i dont know how to help her i know alot is hard for her just asking me to for something to eat is so hard because she cant stay the words. i watch her try to play with children but because she cant talk they sometimes ignore her and she screams every time one of them touch her even if its by mistake, so she ends up playing by herself. I so want to find a answer or something. She starts preschool in a month and i really dont want her to have a hard time with school because i didnt find the right help for her when i could really help. Any ideas?