Different behaviours in the home environment..

by Mary
(Vic, Aus)

Hello,

Is it possible for a child with SPD to only have these controlling and bullying behaviours when in the comfort of his home? It seems as though my child is managing to suppress/to an extent have control over his emotions and the pressures of each day, until he arrives home. Once home it is like the mask is lifted and the 'meltdowns' take over.

He becomes hypersensitive to anything and everything and bullying and defiance is his main agenda. He displays compulsive and ritualistic behaviours, has zero tolerance for siblings and demands/attempts to blackmail everything up until he is asleep at night. He refuses to eat meals and complains they are too hot/too cold, that one food is touching another on his plate or that he doesnt like the taste. He cannot talk with others making noise and will start from the beginning (many times) if the slightest noise is made while he is talking. He cannot think about anything else when he has something on his mind and will remain on this topic until HE moves on to another equally as repeatative and important to him.
It is as though I have Jekyl and Hyde with his behaviours being so different in the home compared to at school where he is defined by the structure and rigidity.

The only other environments where my child seems to lose composure is when in crowded places or in the shopping centre and when in the car.

Does all of this make sense? Am I making sense? I feel as though I have an anxious, frustrated little boy who is learning to control his home environment in order to feel in control and able to cope.